Saturday

A Personal Observation...

On a comment posted yesterday by a certain gentleman. Please know that it is in no way an attack on your character or chosen lifestyle. This same attitude has come to me via a few different people and I need to vent... ha ha, I said "vent"... remember, Wee?...

Specifically it was in regard to being the envy of all your married friends. I have also heard it phrased as "I sleep with a different girl(s) every week. Every guy would kill to be me".

Whoa.

Now, obviously I am not of the male persuasion so truly I cannot put myself in the shoes of all the married men out there, but Whoa. One wonders that if married men are so apt to live vicariously through their women hating friends, why they chose to get married at all. Because that is what it is... to treat a woman as if she were a disposable ass-wipe is really to have no regard for her as a living creature at all. Your married and coupled friends might tell you to your face that they think your chosen lifestyle is the she*t... of course they will, they are your friends... but deep down they are thanking themselves every day that they found someone that they can come home to every night. Someone who they can share their hopes and fears with; their dreams and nightmares.

When this "all guys are jealous of me" attitude first came to my attention... through a friend of mine who luckily knew what this guy was all about before she met him, she was like... "you are not going to believe this... he really thinks this way". My first thought wasn't disbelief, or even disgust. It was pity. I pitied this fool. I wondered what woman could have done something so horrible that he had decided to get back at her by treating all women like the gunk on a q-tip after cleaning your ears. And then my mind fast-forwarded to the future of this individual... when he is 50 and all of his friends been lost to the hell that is apparently, love and fidelity... and he will be alone, and unfulfilled... and making an ass out of himself being a 50 year old guy acting like a 20 year old man whore. Sufficed to say, I am pretty sure that pity was not an emotion that this guy had expected to be directed towards him. He was not impressed when I brought it to his attention.

For the guys out there who live their lives this way... good for you. It's a free country and you can live your life in this manner if you choose. We need you in order to realize that there are really, truly decent guys out there. Just be wary of the girls you choose to use and dispose of. I'm sure there are lots of girls, especially those who have yet to find their own sense of self-worth, who are happy to let guys treat them in this manner... out to have a bit of casual fun as they say. Decent guys... be patient with us girls, as most of us have encountered these dudes at one time or other in our dating lives.

As for me? Being reminded that there are lots of men out there whose sole purpose is to go through women like water makes me much less enthusiastic about hitting the bar scene on a weekly basis... but then again, I haven't been in a long time. I will be having fun this summer, of that you can be sure, but I can assure you that effing my brains out with a different guy every week is not the way to inner fulfillment... at least not for me anyway. To each their own.

Beatrice "proud to be a monogamist" Petty

6 comments:

lornStar said...

hey Bitter Beatrice... you do know that in the entire history of mankind it has NEVER hurt anyones eyes to look on the bright side of things... don't you?

mollyblogger said...

Hey Lornstar...

Way to completely miss the point... AGAIN. lol.

Reading comprehension's not your forte, is it?

Hey Bea...

The irony about these guys is that they're usually kind of ugly... like coyote-ugly. That's why no one sticks around.

It's easier for them to believe it's by CHOICE that they're alone. The truth hurts.

Beatrice Petty said...

Thanks Molly,

I wasn't even going to bother this time.

:)

Hot 4 Lornstar said...

wow, lornstar sounds like a perfect guy--just fun and no committment. i mean, sleeping around is soooo cool. and criticizing sincere people is such a turn on! party on, dude! give me a holla, balla. 1.800.fec.koff.

;)

Capitaine said...

I'm with you on that one Bea.

I guess some people (guys and girls) can be happy sleeping with someone different every week, but I doubt you can be happy doing that for a lifetime.

I'm pretty much married, and yes I fantasize about being with someone different sometimes. But I wouldn't give up what I have with S just to have sex with someone else. A strong relationship is so much more fulfilling to me.

lornStar said...

heyyyyy HOT4LORNSTAR... love the name!! i am so happy that i have made and impact on you.. buuuut.. as sincere as i am SURE you are.. you might not be able to handle this King of Space Mountain... and if you've ever been to Disney World you know that Space Mountain is the oldest ride in the park.. but it STILL has the longest line!